Tamil Serials And Why Do We Need To Address The Problems In It. [PART-1]

 There are a lot of serials in Tamilnadu which I particularly hate. By hate, I meant the concept not about the actors or directors. But it felt like there are many things which are need to be addressed. So I will be doing that now.

So, this is about a recent teaser about a serial released by Vijay TV ( which is one of the channel in Tamilnadu with highest TRP).

https://youtu.be/KhuYl3vOk1c

The above link is the teaser.

So let me tell you point by point what is wrong on this teaser and why it is important for us to condemn serials like this.

                    

The teaser starts by an old woman telling the female lead that even though she was studied in the west, she still respect her culture. They exchange some flattery between themselves.

And then..

The male lead gives the intro.

                    

Our male lead makes a rude entry by making a scene. Some people really think that being rude to others is such a charismatic thing and I don't blame them. Because not only our media but even other countries have male leads like that. But who are we to blame, when we ourselves binge read Ice cold prince stories, but in real life no one will tolerate that even if the boy or girl is more charming than anybody else. That's not the problem here.

The problem starts from the next scene.

                    

So, basically there is a newly wed couples in the temple. From this scene, we can grasp the idea that they got married without their parents permission.

He basically assaulted the groom and he yelled at the couple , "You got married without your parents permission and do you think you can call that marriage". This is what he said.

But wait a minute.

Is he really serious? 

Aren't they two adults ?

So, even if they didn't tell their parents, who is he to tell them off ?

Did main lead really think he has a right to assault a grown up man just because the man married someone who he is in love with?

Don't the main lead know that marriage is  something between two people who are in love with each other?

The man can file a case against main lead for infringement of his basic rights and for assualting him.

It goes even more worse.

So, the male lead try to remove the thaali. For those who don't know what thaali is, in Hindu culture instead of wedding ring they'll use something like thaali. This is an example how it look like.

The design of the thaali change according to the tradition and custom of every house.

Basically, the male lead tried to remove the thaali from the bride.
Now our female lead gives her entry. She stopped him and slapped him.

When I watched this scene, I thought "okay, the female lead will come in and say something like who are you to tell them not to marry each other when they are in love or something like that".

But she said, " how can you do that? They are basically blessed and married in front of the goddess Amman."

Note the point, she neither correct him for assaulting the groom nor she care about their marriage. The only concept they want to remain is that he can't cancel the couples marriage because it took before the god.

That is what I understand from that dialogue. 

Then our main lead goes and take a thaali from the goddess and tie it on female lead and ask her , " so that means you are my wife now?".

                    

He basically married her forcefully against her will and the series are romanticizing that.

Common sense were thrown out of the gutter.

When I tell you, I felt sick watching this. I literally meant it.

We knows how it'll go from now on, the female lead won't take off the thaali and she'll be desperate to get the attention of the male lead.

Then the redemption arc of male lead will come but we can't call it redemption. All he will do is, basically start to respect her and then all of his past wrong doings will be forgiven.

So, the problem here is that there is a idea which is drilled by the media into our head that if once someone tied a knot even against their will, they have to adjust it and to be a good housewife for them.

And if the girl didn't obey and throw away the thaali she was titled as 'witch' and slut shamed.

Does our culture really says that girls should be accept every harrasment their spouse do, even if they didn't deserve it? Even if they are forced in a marriage??

No.

The idea of thaali isn't associated with Tamil culture at all. Thaali was not referred as a symbol of marriage in Tamil literature.

There is a practice where men hunt tiger tooth or other things for the women they are in love with and the women will wear it.

Ancient Tamilnadu is praised for its great women scholars. So, why are we going backwards nowadays.

Our industry seriously need a changing point. We used to attract the world with our high rich movies and culture, but now all we can see is hero stalking a girl, and heroine was expected to drag the hero's out of the dark world.

There are thousands of great younger generation out their who is waiting for their chance. If we just gave them a chance , maybe we don't need to think about these problems.

There is nothing wrong with removing thaali because it is just an ornament, the groom provided.

But people consider it a taboo for married girls who remove their thaalis. Even if they are housewives and if they feel they don't want to wear , then there is no need to wear it.

And if someone said anything about culture, tell them that it never existed in the first place. 

But the only thing which made me happy about this is there are people who are raising their voice against this. Hope the production team came up with better story soon.

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